NOT "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

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The Verdict With Judge Hatchett: Sofa Swap & Not So Guardian Angel (Justice Central Friday November 3, 2023) The good news? It can be accomplished, and the commitment can be richer than ever. Not because of the affair, but because of the work done to make marriage #2 better than marriage #1 ever was. Working through an affair is tough. It takes tremendous energy and vulnerability on both sides. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have developed the Trust Revival Method, with three defined stages of treatment: Atonement, Attunement, and Attachment. The effectiveness of this model is being studied in a randomized clinical trial.

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Haan-Rietdijk, S. D., Gottman, J. M., Bergeman, C. S., & Hamaker, E. L. (2016). Get Over It! A Multilevel Threshold Autoregressive Model for State-Dependent Affect Regulation. Psychometrika, 81(1), 217–241. doi: 10.1007/S11336-014-9417-XNot all, but probably a majority of unfaithful partners set out on the emotional slippery slope without any awareness of how friendships morph into emotional and sexual affairs.

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When you share things you don’t talk about with your wife, you start creating a bond that is stronger than the bond you have with your spouse. Interestingly enough, the later sex happens, the more likely it is the affairs will be deeply emotional. Often, people who engage in an affair will balk at the idea of sharing with their spouse their struggles with letting go of their lover. The most important point? To move ahead, Sam needs to actively hear and believe that Jennifer is choosing him and their marriage. Realize that the “truth” rarely comes out all at once Sometimes the initial emotions solidify and strengthen in the weeks and months that go by. But some other times they shift. Gottman, J. (1995). Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last. Simon & Schuster.Geraldine James takes centre stage as Shirley and there is another foray into straight acting for Dave King as the mean Drake. When they start feeling again the feeling won’t be positive, but it’s a step forward nonetheless. #2. Relief That makes her susceptible, even unconsciously looking for, an emotional bond and a sexual release. This is important because you can’t fully heal from emotional affairs unless you fix your relationship first. Stage 4: Sexually Intimate Affair / Threatened Marriage