My Nanna

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Dear Son, there’s just one piece left of your fav dish, please eat it all, we already had some yesterday : you’ll love it, it’s delicious! And Jen will have some canned food while watching you enjoying your meal”… Few months ago, I poured my heart out to him, and called out all of his emotional abuse during my childhood. He found a way to throw the guilt on me… Around nine months later, my Granddad was in the hospital and we received a call from my Dad telling us that Nanna was in a hospice and she was not going to last for very much longer. I didn’t know what to think, however, my Dad told me he’d come and see my Granddad if I went to see my Nanna. Hardly the thing to bargain with your son about, but there we go! So I went to see her.

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If your parent ever told you one of these gems, chances are, they won’t be much different as a grandparent. Maybe it is better to protect my daughter from my mom’s narcissistic behaviour and not take her for visits at all.

Now, my daughter and I moved to a very nice house when I got married. My father went off. He went to my wedding but would not even pay for my cake. My husband and I paid for the entire wedding. TOXIC appears to be the latest buzz word in our society. My understanding is that clinically diagnosed Narcissism and Toxic mean the same. Dating an asshole is different than a family member “mistreating” you or being a narcissist. I’m not suggesting,”just brush it off” if a family member is being an ass, but what ever happened to love, patience, and maybe, just maybe, there are problems on both sides that could benefit a resolution rather than running away? But we’re not talking about regular folks here. We’re talking about toxic people, not grandma who occasionally sneaks your child a cookie. Even occasional comments can become their inner voice, which can lead to confusion, anxiety, depression, psychosomatic illnesses, and other serious issues.

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You seem to be subscribing to the idea that, because of the genetic lottery, a person is entitled to certain treatment. I disagree with that entirely.I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful. It’s ok if you don’t approve my post, its ok if you don’t even read it, however, what do I have to say? Well… I am divorced and share the custody of my daughter with my ex. When I divorced my mom told me I should give up custody because I was too weak to deal with such a difficult child and it would be easier for me to give her away. Thank God I did not believe her! Excessive gift-giving, especially when one child gets better gifts than the others, sends the message that gifts equal love. It won’t be easy. Cutting ties with your parent (or your partner’s parent) can dismantle the whole family unit and turn people against you.

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Except adults have defenses to deal with toxic people; kids don’t. Their psyches are fragile and impressionable.

I will always be thankful for my Nanna and having her in my life for that short period of time. She was simply an amazing, kind-hearted woman. I simply wish she was still here. The guilt I feel lessens as each year passes. I’m proud to be her Grandson and I know she would be proud ( as she always was) to be my Nanna. And so, on the last day we spoke, when she began screaming at me and calling me every obscene name in the book, hanging up on her brother whom I’d called and trying to damage my car; all because I was upset with her the day before, due to her invalidating my feelings, I told her I’d had enough of her abuse and told her to get out of my car. A toxic grandparent also aims to be your kids’ favorite person so that they can take control of their hearts and minds. My daughter does not like my mom that much, so she has probably seen there is something wrong with her behaviour. Thank God the other grandparents are normal, loving and caring people.