Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable (Tim Grover Winning Series)

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After a pretty much perfect day at the office, the key is to now build on this and ensure it's not simply a one-off. Focus on the football In Relentless, author Tim Grover explains the qualities you’ll need to become the best in your field—qualities which he collectively calls “relentlessness.” He came up with these qualities by learning from his own personal training career, training and getting to know some of the all-time great basketball players. Grover argues that by acting relentlessly, you can become an all-time great yourself no matter what your career, field, or discipline is. Shortform note: Grover suggests that acting on instinct will help you avoid strong emotions, but many psychologists provide a contrasting view. Research around panic suggests that it comes from a “fight or flight” response—our natural, instinctual response to potential danger. In other words, instinct can create strong fearful emotions if you’re not able to direct it into intense focus.)

Chapter 10: When You're a Cleaner...You make decisions, not suggestions; you know the answer while everyone else is still asking questions. Tim tells in his first book how he managed to get to mentally train NBA superstars like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant, Dwayne Wade - these names are top of the top.Grover’s argument here—that relentlessness is instinctual—is similar to that of “evolutionary psychology”: A framework that argues that human behavior is heavily influenced by instincts gained through evolution. However, scientists and scholars heavily debate the merits of evolutionary psychology. Its main critics argue that experiences or environment inspire behaviors more than instinct does. They also argue that it’s impossible to test the hypotheses of evolutionary psychology because even if researchers observe an expected behavior, there’s no way of knowing if instinct inspired it. If you never had a chance to be a kid; you want that for yourself, because it’s completely instinctive to want to have fun, ignore the rules, and just forget about responsibility and goals and performance. I get that. But I’m convinced childhood is overrated; you can have a much better childhood as an adult, when you have the freedom and the affluence to enjoy it. You get this small window to be a legend, and you have the rest of your life to act like a kid, at any age. Push it as far as you can, and even if you make it until you’re thirty or thirty-five, you still have decades ahead to enjoy what you built for yourself (229). English–Arabic English–Bengali English–Catalan English–Czech English–Danish English–Hindi English–Korean English–Malay English–Marathi English–Russian English–Tamil English–Telugu English–Thai English–Turkish English–Ukrainian English–Vietnamese In addition to directing your instinct to use knowledge, Grover explains that you can also direct your instincts to help control emotions. Directing your instincts to control emotion is crucial for consistent relentlessness because as we’ve discussed, strong emotions like fear and uncertainty can cause you to freeze up or doubt yourself—preventing you from acting relentlessly..

If you aspire to be a cleaner, take responsibility for everything in your life. You’re in charge, always. You own this. You got this. If he ever felt anything negative, he never showed it. That's a cleaner…. Cleaners show emotion if it’s the only way to get everyone else where they need to be, never because the cleaner has lost control of his feelings.” But what was limiting about this book is there's far more name dropping than calls to action. Grover basically says if you are a Cleaner you will know you are a Cleaner. Like Michael Jordan. Or Charles Barkley. Or LeBron James. Shortform note: Psychology suggests that constantly pushing yourself hard, as Grover encourages, can lead to burnout— a kind of emotional exhaustion characterized by disinterest and cynicism in regards to your field. The risk of burnout suggests that there are moments when not pushing yourself will actually better enable you to succeed in the long run, since it’ll make you healthier and keep you motivated to succeed. To avoid burnout while still pushing hard, experts recommend you learn to recognize when you’re pushing yourself out of habit versus when you’re doing it for a worthy goal. Ease off if you’re acting habitually, and keep going if you have a good reason to do so.) Principle #2: Put Intense Pressure on Yourself It's a mindset for mental toughness. Tell yourself what to do and stop waiting for others to lay it all out.”

Confidence is not caring what others thing because even if you make a mistake, you know you'll get it right. My family came to the United States when I was four, and my father went to work in the basement of a hospital in Chicago, dismembering cadavers. When there was no school and both my parents were working, he'd take me with him; I was five years old the first time I saw my father dismantle a corpse. When I was six, he handed me a bone saw and told me to help." It's mainly about the author's experience in training professional basketball players. The guidance doesn't apply to other areas like business. For example, he talks about how a player needs to train until the actions becomes instinctive. Under pressure, the player just reacts (no thinking, no wasting precious seconds to come up with a plan). That advice doesn't really work in business; only in sports. We’ve just explored the first main quality of the Unstoppable, the need to succeed, and discussed how you can productively fulfill this need. Now, we’ll explore Grover’s secondUnstoppable quality: the ability to direct your instincts—that is, the ability to use your natural animal instincts to accomplish the complex goals required by your field or discipline.

Constantly putting yourself under pressure gives you lots of practice managing the fear and stress that comes with it, so you’ll improve at managing these feelings.Grover defines “relentlessness” as a state of mind in which you’re fully dedicated to becoming stronger, surviving, and overcoming obstacles to achieve your goals. Being relentless, Grover asserts, is how you can become the best at what you do and succeed time and time again. Fore more than two decades, legendary trainer Tim Grover has taken the greats—Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, Dwayne Wade, and dozens more—and made them greater. Now, for the first time ever, he reveals what it takes to get those results, showing you how to be relentless and achieve whatever you desire. Once you’re able to direct your instincts to properly use your knowledge and control your emotions, Grover declares that you must access your primal self: the person you are when acting entirely through instinct. Directing your instincts productively is the foundation for this step because it ensures you’ll still relentlessly pursue your goals even when acting impulsively.