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In June 2018, I took the plunge to become a doula. My main motivation behind becoming a doula was helping a loved one through severe postnatal depression. Before I’d even finished my first day of training, I knew I wanted to work specifically with queer families and Nanny Kimbo was born. We recognise the need for additional services targeted at not only LGBTQ+ families but also at other families perceived to be minorities. That being said, everyone is welcome at The Queer Parenting Partnership.

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It wasn’t until 1997, however, that New Jersey became the first state to allow same-sex couples to adopt jointly statewide, and not until 2010 did the last state, Florida, overturn a ban on adoption by gay men and lesbians. Several other states continued to ban unmarried couples, though, effectively stopping same-sex couples from adopting until marriage equality became federal law in 2015. I wish this book had been available when my kids were young. It would have made me feel less alone.' Mary Portas.Dana Rudolph is the founder and publisher of Mombian ( mombian.com), a GLAAD Media Award-winning blog and resource directory for LGBTQ parents. Nell Stevens is the author of the novel Briefly, A Delicious Life and is pregnant with her second child. Along with her wife, Eley, she is the mother of a toddler, and tells me that, since becoming a parent, she has felt more conflicted about the term “motherhood”. I am a qualified midwife with a postgraduate qualification in reproductive biology. I have worked in a range of settings including community, home birthing, on a range of hospital wards and have also taught hypnobirthing and parent education. In the 1960s and 70s, as the nascent LGBTQ rights movement buoyed the community, out LGBTQ people also began starting families. Bill Jones, a gay man, in 1968 became the first single father to adopt a child in California and one of the first nationally—although, as he told NPRin 2015, he was obliquely advised by a social worker not to mention that he was gay. A decade later, New York became the first state not to reject adoption applicants solely because of “homosexuality.” A gay couple in California in 1979 became the first in the country to jointly adopt a child. In 1985, some same-sex couples first obtained what became known as “second-parent adoptions” to secure a child’s legal connection to a nonbiological parent. A decade later, the Wisconsin Supreme Court was the first state high court to say a nonbiological mother may seek visitation after separation. Strength in Community

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LGBTQ parents have long come together to support each other, as well as to contribute to the broader LGBTQ rights movement. In 1956, the pioneering San Francisco lesbian organization Daughters of Bilitis held the first known discussion groups on lesbian motherhood. The first lesbian mothers’ activist group, the Lesbian Mothers Union, formed in the same area 15 years later. It has been decades since gay women have been able to start families with the help of fertility treatment, and even longer since they have been doing so without. With some unfair barriers to IVF for lesbian couples having been recently removed, their numbers are only likely to increase. Yet so many of society’s ideas about parenthood remain rooted in traditional gender roles. Lynch’s use of the plural “motherhoods” stands in proud contrast to that, a quiet but firm assertion that the idea of a single “mother figure” needn’t be fixed; that it can be up to us how we interpret the role. In 1974, several lesbian mothers and friends in Seattle formed the Lesbian Mothers National Defense Fund to help those in custody disputes. Similar groups for lesbian mothers and gay fathers formed in other cities. In 1977, lawyers Donna Hitchens and Roberta Achtenberg in San Francisco began the Lesbian Rights Project, which helped both lesbian moms and gay dads. It evolved into the National Center for Lesbian Rights, still helping LGBTQ parents and others across the spectrum today. We first hear of out LGBTQ parents around the time of World War II, mostly in the context of cases that denied them child custody after divorce from different-sex, cisgender spouses. Starting in the 1970s, however, a few state courts upheld custody rights for transgender, gay, and lesbian parents, though some still required that they not live with a partner or engage in “homosexual activities.”Money Matters Neurodiversity Preparing for University - Subject Reading Lists Reading For Pleasure Stationery verifyErrors }}{{ message }}{{ /verifyErrors }}{{ I agree. I think in heterosexual relationships, no matter how egalitarian you try to be, societal gender roles intervene. When there are two mothers, perhaps there is more freedom to design your own roles. That’s not to say that there aren’t still differences between the birthing parent and the non-birthing parent, which can make the shift challenging in all sorts of ways, but, as Stevens says: “it has freed us up to parent more authentically, I think, rather than going ‘I’m the dad, therefore I do this’.” By March 1990, lesbian and gay parents had become visible enough for Newsweekto coin a term, reporting that “a new generation of gay parents has produced the first-ever ‘gayby boom.’” Seeing Ourselves, Teaching Others