Shibari for Beginners: The Step-by-Step Guide to Learn the art of Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage. With Knots Explained and 50+ Positions. Revised Edition

Product Information

The first question a beginner has is “what is shibari?” The answer: it is a Japanese style of bondage that involves a certain binding technique and aesthetics principles using ropes. Two people usually perform it: the rigger, the one that ties, and the bottom, the tied person. Shibari for Beginners: Trust You'll need to establish which role you want to do; rigger, model or switch - where you've guessed it both you and your partner switch between the roles. You may find you only want to rig or model, if you practise Shibari with multiple partners you might like different roles in different partnerships ... there really are no rules ... well except for these below ... One of the most important aspects in bondage is trust. The reason is that the top will restrict the bottom, leaving them vulnerable. Similarly, if you are into this submission, the rigger will be taking control of your body. Because of this, it is very important to trust your partner completely—or not to practice this type of activitiesat all. Adapting hog ties for larger, broader, or less flexible folks is made easy by tying in a modular fashion.

The origin of Shibari is thought to lie in Hojo-jutsu, a martial art used by Samurai in Japan in 1400 to restrain prisoners. To show their prisoners respect, they used rope, different tying techniques and patterns to symbolise the social status of their prisoner, as well as the type and severity of the crime. There are plenty of shibari dojos where you can find a partner if you do not have one. In them, you will have an expert leading your scene or teaching you how to do it. Doing shibari for the first time with someone you have just met, without any type of supervision from a professional, is not a great idea. The reason is that you do not really know if your potential partner is trustworthy or not. Or if they know what they are doing. This knowledge comes with time: you will have this exchange organically until when you know your partner better. Shibari for Beginners: the Negotiations Shibari takes dedication and patience to master, but you will develop a skill that can lead to a deeper sense of trust and a greater bond between you and your partner.

Safety first

Thorough communication about wants, desires, boundaries and what you’re looking to get out of Shibari with any potential partners are also crucial before, during and after every Shibari session.

Not sure what width or length rope is right for you? This should help you determine the differences between the various hemp rope sizes. We offer 4mm, 6mm and 8mm rope in various lengths across eight fantastic colors. Shibari techniques tread the line between pain and pleasure, with knots and ties positioned to heighten sensuality and stimulate pressure points, erogenous zones and genitals.All you really need to be able to bring bondage to the bedroom is a simple handcuff-style tie, Syonda says. "This is called a 'double column' tie—two loops around two 'columns' (usually two limbs) that doesn’t collapse or self tighten." The number one rule for tying safely is to ALWAYS have safety shears within reaching distance,” Sydona says. “The second is to be able to communicate to your partner well, both as both a top [person doing the tying] and bottom [person being tied]. Being able to communicate explicitly and coherently before, during, and after a session is what keeps it as safe and enjoyable as possible.” In any tie, but particularly with ties involving the wrists, it’s important to make sure you have plenty of wiggle room between the skin and the rope, and that the tie can’t tighten down on itself," she says. "A tie that does this is both uncomfortable and unsafe and can potentially cause loss of circulation or nerve damage." Shibari requires negotiation and consent from both parties. In them, you talk about rules and limits before the scene. A safety word is something that you must not forget. This comes in handy in case the bottom is feeling numbness, pain, or discomfort. When this happens, you use the safety word to stop the session.