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When we see stereotypes and misinformation that is concerning to us as a community. we feel misrepresented," Fleksher said. "We want to stand up for our stories." My husband grew up in Hasidic Boro Park. He is one of seven. His mother is one of twelve. No one he knows would leave a sixteen-year-old alone with five kids for two weeks while they traveled to Israel on a vacation. This has nothing to do with religion, and everything to do with family dysfunction. Within a week of her escape, Haart founded a shoe brand, and within nine months, she was at Paris Fashion Week. Just a few years later, she was named creative director of La Perla. Soon she would become co-owner and CEO of Elite World Group, and one of the most powerful people in the fashion industry. Along the way, her four children—Batsheva, Shlomo, Miriam, and Aron—have not only accepted but embraced her transformation. Ever since she was a child, every aspect of Julia’s life – what she thought, ate, and wore – was controlled by the strict rules of her community,” Endeavour said. “In Brazen, Julia shares her story of growing up caring for her seven younger siblings, and then at 19 being married off to a man she barely knew. For the next 23years, her husband would rule her life.”
Batsheva and her husband, Ben, who had just recently wed when Julia Haart left the community, consider themselves religious in faith but aren't following many of the guidelines on clothing and other choices. Batsheva is a social media influencer.painted two bright streaks of hot neon pink across my perfectly lovely nineteen-year-old skin, and my eyes were covered in so much green eyeshadow that it was difficult to blink. When she was done, I looked at myself in the mirror. I might not have had much exposure to fashion magazines or movies, but it didn’t take a genius to know I looked ridiculous. Between the puffy-sleeved, petticoated gown and the bizarre face paint, I looked like a mad Wes Craven version of a child bride. I couldn’t contain my dismay. He had betrayed me, plain and simple. I didn’t feel anger or hurt. I was just shattered. All my plans, the future I had seen for myself, was now dust and ashes. It was the destruction of the plan that hurt me the most. That was the only thing that had kept me going during high school- the dream of escape, the thought that one day I would be Mrs. Yechiel Horowitz. The hurt over his betrayal and the anger would come later. Now all I could think of was the destruction of my plan. I didn’t cry, of course. Never let them see you cry. I walked away from Yechiel, and from our future together, with my head held high. The book doesn't even really end, it just sputters out with her finally selling her failed brand that has lost tens of thousands of dollars to a company that will take over production and then that's it. Nothing about the past six years, her TV show or why when you see her on Netflix she acts like a dumb nutcase. No real coming-of-age learning about how she would have done life differently or even any demeaning the religious institution she was part of, because even when she left the religious group she continued to rush home on Sabbath and holidays, get in her 1800s outfits, and act like a practitioner. It's very bizarre.
Haart said those who question whether she was really as observant and restricted as her past life is portrayed in a reality seriesmiss the point. Batsheva, Julia’s oldest daughter, decided she wanted to marry a man called Binyamin (Benjamin). Julia wanted Batsheva to go to college, get a degree, and not get married till later. But Batsheva and Benjamin wanted to get married earlier. At this point, Julia could have sat them down and had a clear conversation with them about her concerns, her fears or her advice. Alternatively, she could have told them she refused to pay for the wedding, and that if they wanted to get married, they would have to do it on their own. She did neither of these things. Instead, she decided to live vicariously through them- to act as the authority in their lives in a way that breaks boundaries and is totally inappropriate. Worse, she applauds herself for having done it. Here’s her depiction of events. The kids were tired, scared, distraught, and just generally unhappy, and they let me know it. Even thinking about it now, thirty years later, I’m still filled with that sense of dread…that impossibly heavy weight. When I heard the sound of my parents’ voices as they returned, I felt this huge wave of relief. They were home, and I hadn’t killed anyone. I had managed to keep all my siblings alive. Whilst it wasn't a book about her parents but rather Julia's life, it still was the basis for the insular life that they created through their choices. I wanted to know more. They went from living a communist life in a communist country to living a communist life within a democratic country and then inflicting that lifestyle, which they wanted to avoid themselves, on their children. To compound their hypocrisy, they have no communication with a daughter, who chose like they did, to live a different life. The center is staffed and provides answers on Sundays through Thursdays between 07:00 AM and 14:00 PM and Fridays only handles distribution requests between 7:00 AM and 12:30 PM
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We were at the age when every girl in my class was having a bat mitzvah. This was not the Modern Orthodox version of a bat mitzvah; there were no DJs or dancing. But everyone did have a dinner with rabbis speaking about girls becoming women and having to be even more tznius [modest]. It was still an occasion.
I finished it thinking that I cannot have my own re birth as I simply do not have an endless amount of investors to support me flying all over the world and booking suites in hotels. Haart began leading a double life which led to her rising to the top of the fashion industry. “When no one was looking, she'd sneak looks at fashion magazines and sketch designs for the clothes she dreamed about wearing in the world beyond her orthodox suburb,” Endeavour said. “In the ultra-orthodox world, clothing has one purpose: to cover the body from head to toe. Giving any thought to your appearance beyond that is considered sinful, an affront to God. She started clandestinely selling life insurance to save her 'freedom' money. At 42, she finally mustered the courage to leave.” Haart makes clear in the interview that her former husband and father of her four children is "a lovely person."Julia was determined not to raise her children the way she had been raised. She wanted to raise them to feel loved . She also wanted to raise them to have opportunities and more freedom when it came to their choices- especially whom to marry, or what kinds of careers to pursue. An irresistible read . . . Written with great intensity and rare candor, Brazen is a story of longing for more and manifesting that vision.”—Tommy Hilfiger This is messed up. Unfortunately, this kind of misinformation about sex still occurs (although I hope less frequently), although nowadays, because there is access to the Internet, it is easier for struggling brides and grooms to get access to accurate information. Unfortunately for Julia and Yosef, that option would not have existed. But my advice to Jews? The same thing I would tell my six-year-old: If you don’t like it, ignore it, it will go away.
Those were terrible, sleepless nights. I was at a total loss. For as long as I could remember since I was fourteen, I knew what my future would look like. We had even chosen the furniture, and now I felt totally untethered, confused, and so alone. He had always been there for me. My knight in the shining green Camry. Julia’s parents also expected her to wake up at 6am on Shabbat morning and take the kids downstairs and play with them so that they could sleep late. Julia served everyone breakfast, put the dishes in the sink, would clean up lunch, play with the kids, and put them down for a nap. She would have some time to read a book, change the kids when they woke up, pray, feed them dinner, clean that up, set the table for the third meal of Shabbat, serve that, clean that up, and put the kids to sleep. Once Shabbat was over, she washed every single dish. She also cleaned the kitchen floor (which had to be done by getting down on her hands and knees and washing it with a cloth.) I give the first 2/3 of the book 3.75 stars and the last third 2.5 stars. By my math that rounds off to 3 stars. Suffice it to say that she taught me nothing about sex or pleasure and everything about what I was supposed to do, according to what she claimed was Torah law, to keep my family and my children pure. The one thing she drummed into me during the classes, which took place twice a week every week leading up to the wedding, was that while my husband was “doing his duty,” I was not to think of my body but I was to recite psalms. I was to think of God as his seed spilled into me, as that was the only way to ensure that my children would come out holy. If I enjoyed the physical act too much and allowed myself to lose my concentration and focus, my children would be doomed for life, and it would be my fault, my sin. I had nightmares about this for several years after my marriage and did my utmost to recite psalms in my mind while my husband spilled his seed into me. I was so afraid to ruin my children before they were even born.An irresistible read.... Written with great intensity and rare candor, Brazen is a story of longing for more and manifesting that vision.” (Tommy Hilfiger) I'm not going to minimize that our community doesn't have areas where we need to improve," Fleksher said. "We do." But Jewish women, she added,are much more than the stereotypes Fleksher believes "My Unorthodox Life" perpetuates. And despite the surprise success of Shtislaround the world years after it ended in Israel, a fourth season is not in the making. But an American adaptation is. And, according to its synopsis, about a modern secular woman who falls in love with an ultra-Orthodox man and uproots her life for him – is exactly the show that many haters of My Orthodox Life proposed. (Except, it’s scripted.) ‘SHTISEL’ HAS become an international sensation (credit: RONEN AKERMAN/YES) Instead of tropes and stereotypes, Fleksher said the general public should have an opportunity to understand thatOrthodox Judaism is widely diverse. "She has a responsibility if she's going to create a reality TV show to somehow express that nuance," she said."I do think it's damaging that we have a Jew herself who is promoting stereotypes." Julia describes a situation that is demonstrative of the level of family dysfunction/ neglect she grew up with.
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