Wounds of the Father: A True Story of Child Abuse, Betrayal, and Redemption

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If you feel safe doing so, you might benefit from talking with your father about how he affected you. It may be beneficial to practice such a conversation in the safety of a therapy session before moving forward and talking with your father.

For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!” – Romans 8:15 For some people, the damage caused by a father wound can result in anger and aggression. Feelings of anger may be a coping mechanism for dealing with the emotional pain of having an unloving or uninvolved father. 4. Rigid behaviorWe moved to a new town a few years ago and my wife told her new friends I grew up in a fatherless home. They used to be ok with me. Now they know, they treat me like garbage. Even the pastor treats me like I am nothing and won’t even talk to me. All because they see the stats rather than seeing me. I would like to use this article if I could, to introduce the topic of Sep 3…turning one’s will and life over to the care of God as we understand Him…which is very difficult if you have a father wound. Addiction – When addiction is present within a family unit, particularly in this instance with the father figure, it can create a rift in the father-child relationship. If your father wound developed because of abuse, you may, unfortunately, continue this cycle with your children. A bad example of parenting growing up can lead you to repeat this behavior, even if you don’t immediately realize it. Related Reading: Have I Suffered From Emotional Abuse by My Parents? 7. Unhealthy relationships Behind the scenes of broken marriages and fatherlessness lies a much grander scheme. Scripture tells us that our battle is not against flesh and blood (Ephesians 6:12). The struggle we are facing is not pitting fathers against children.

A father wound can result in fear of abandonment in adult relationships . You may become overly needy and clingy with your partners because you fear abandonment. Ultimately, this can push away your significant other. 6. Projecting

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If you experienced childhood emotional neglect you may repeat the pattern as you don’t know any different. Perhaps you become a practical parent and struggle with emotionally engaging with your child(ren). You may find this post useful: Parenting when you have experienced childhood emotional neglect and/or trauma . The rampant use of pornography has escalated with a much more physical ramification. That is the verbal and sexual harassment and assault of women on a regular basis. As long as we accept these words as truth, we will seek to perform and prove our worth through perfectionism and materialism, or seek addictions to cover up the pain. If you suffered from any of the father wound examples listed above, you would likely experience emotional damage from your relationship with your father. Damage can present itself differently, depending upon a person’s unique experiences.