Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace (Rose Gold)

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As Tribby mentioned, the Vesper is not the toy you want if you’re looking for a super strong vibration—so it’s probably not great for sex toy newbies. If you’re trying to start a collection, you want a toy with a rumbly motor (like the We-Vibe Nova), Tribby says. That’s just not possible for the Vesper, given its size. "But, the Vesper has the best motor quality they could probably do in that shape and size," she notes. Translation: The toy will still get the job done. The wearer can choose from three finishes – 24 carat gold, silver or rose gold – with a matching chain. The chain is easy to remove entirely if you’d rather not use it, or you can swap it for a different length or style as the links are a little large and at 26 inches, the chain is quite long. But solo exploration isn't the only way to use vibrators — couples may find them to be a great addition to their relationship and notice better intimacy and bonding. “ Introducing a vibrator can be an exciting way to spice things up in the bedroom,” advises Sam Kryplone, a certified sex expert and co-founder of LustyBoy.com. “It's all about shared experiences and discovering new ways to connect intimately.” Remember, always opt for toys made of sanitize-able, non-porous materials such as medical-grade silicone, hypoallergenic metals like stainless steel, and borosilicate glass. The best clitoral vibrators right now Beautiful, rechargeable, and discreet, the Wink+ is a small but powerful vibrator you can keep in plain sight. Learn more

Pleasure points: Although you may not know exactly what you want in a sex toy, especially if you’re just starting out, Freya advises first thinking about what makes you feel good. “For example, if you’re a vulva owner, do you prefer external clitoral stimulation or internal penetration? If you're a penis owner, are you more inclined towards direct penis stimulation or prefer prostate play?” If you’re interested in orgasming (and who isn’t, really?), a clitoral vibrator can be a great place to start. For lots of people, clitoral stimulation feels amazing—and can be essential to orgasming (or to intensifying orgasm). So if you have a clit and you’re choosing sex toys, it might make sense to start with something that stimulates that part of your body because “it’s one of your best routes to orgasm and pleasure,” Heather Shannon, LCPC, a certified sex therapist and host of the podcast Ask a Sex Therapist, tells SELF.The Vesper by CRAVE is an example of what happens when women design the kind of world they want to live in. The Vesper vibrator was created by and for the female gaze and it truly is a thing of beauty. If you’re used to using sex toys you might be put off by the size of The Vesper, because let’s be honest, if you’ve used an external vibrator for a few years and your body is used to stronger, rumblier vibrations, sometimes a bullet-style toy just doesn’t cut it.

What’s nice? There are so many of these stealth sex toys on the market that allow you to keep your sexy business on the DL. You can absolutely find a sex toy that isn’t obviously recognizable to the untrained eye, and that doesn’t sound like a threatening swarm of bees every time you turn it on. Sex toys so smart they practically disguise themselves? We’ll take 20.Figure out how you wish to use the vibrator (alone, for foreplay, or to finish) and what sensation you want. “Do you want a toy that really targets just the head of the clitoris—or the whole vulva?” Shannon asks. Direct pressure can feel great to some (which can be achieved with bullet vibrators and toys with pointed tips), while others may prefer a more diffuse vibration that spreads across the vulva (offered by most palm vibrators and clit suction toys with deep mouths that mimic the feeling of oral sex). The other thing that makes it great, and a sound investment for anyone with sensitive skin (guilty), is its coating. You can choose from 24K gold or high polish medical-grade stainless steel in a chrome or rose-gold finish, meaning it warms wonderfully to your body temperature. Body-Safe Materials: When it comes to using a vibrator, you'll want to make sure the one you're using is made from body-safe materials and free of anything you're personally allergic to—like latex for example. Another issue: the buttons. "For a toy like this, the ease of use is not really there yet," says Tribby. Because the Vesper is made to be discreet, it can’t exactly have a huge power button. Instead, the toy has one button to turn it on and off, and to cycle through the vibrator’s four speeds and two patterns (pulsing and constant). If you’re not sure what you like, Good Vibrations staff sex expert and sex educator Carol Queen, PhD, advises taking a look at vibrators that let you explore sensations. There are vibrators with several intensity levels or built with both a focused tip and a body that’s wide enough to cover more of the vulva.

The best bullet vibrators are so subtle you could leave them on a table and none would be the wiser. There are plenty of reasons to add one to your sex-toy collection (or make it your main vibe; you do you). What is a bullet vibrator? For example, if clitoral stimulation is your focus, get a vibe that mimics the feeling of oral sex. If penetration's more your thing, you'll want a bigger vibrator with internal stimulation features. And hey, there are many that do both at the same time—there's no need to settle when it comes to taking your pleasure into your own hands (literally). With a soft flexible tip and twelve exciting vibration patterns, the Flex is ready to please. Learn moreTi Chang, the creator of the now somewhat iconic toy, describes The Vesper as being “designed for beautiful experiences in public and in private”. Buy one that can hold enough charge for your needs. There's nothing worse than your vibrator's battery giving out just before you reach that O. Goal: Do you need a hand reaching orgasm in general, or are you looking for a toy that can bring you an even bigger O? Also consider if you want to spice up intimacy between you and a partner, or if solo masturbation is more your style. So, what makes stainless steel so great? For one, it’s super smooth, meaning it’ll easily glide over your or your partner’s body. Metals like stainless steel also hold temperature way better than the silicone that usually coats sex toys—and that opens your play time up for experimenting with hot and cold.