Anal Ease Lubricant Anal Relax Numbing Desensitizing Lube 240ml

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Not coming out? Get to urgent care or an emergency room right away. Keep your genital area as still as possible to prevent any sudden or abrupt movement that could injure your urethra. If you have a vulva, spread your labia and keep them apart so that you have easier access to the urethral opening. After you feel comfortable with how far it’s in, try moving it a few directions to see what feels best and what nerve endings you can stimulate. Try to gently pull it in and out, too. There’s a common misconception that lube is an extra add-on that most people don’t need unless they’re experiencing some sort of “problem” with sex, when really, lube can be used by anyone, anytime. The right lube can heighten pleasurable sensations, and reduce chafing during an all-night sex marathon, but some formulas contain ingredients that some believe may increase the risk of getting a yeast infection or cause other health problems. Unlike vaginas, [which provide natural lubrication], anuses do not self-lubricate,” board-certified ob-gyn Jacques Moritz, MD, previously told SELF. Anal penetration without adequate lubrication can cause the tissue in your anus to tear, SELF previously reported, which is both painful and dangerous. These tears in the anus area can make you more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections (or STIs), like gonorrhea and HIV, according to Dr. Moritz. What kinds of lube are safe for anal sex?

Here's how to use a lube, says Dr. Streicher: “The time to apply lubricant is before you attempt intercourse. You squeeze it on your fingers, and if there’s a penis involved, you apply it liberally to the penis, and to the opening of the vagina [or anus].” It’s important to warm the lube first, she adds: “If you put cold lube on an erection, he might lose it.” If a warm bath doesn’t work, spread some lube around the urethral opening and try to drip some down into your urethra. This can make it easier to slip the toy out. Silicone: Don't contain any water or oils, last longer and are less likely to cause irritation. However, they are more expensive and aren't ideal for lower-grade silicone sex toys. Throw on your bathing suits, folks, because we're going down the slip-n-slide to find the best anal lube for you. Going into anal sex without a lubricant is like going through your day without coffee: painful and almost always unsuccessful. On a more serious note, “using lube for anal play is crucial,” Jenn Mason, founder and owner of WinkWink, a Washington-based, women-owned sex shop, tells SELF. We spoke with experts to understand what to look for when shopping for anal lubes and why it’s beneficial for anal sex. Why should you use anal lube? Oil: Coconut, avocado and sunflower oils can be used, or they can be synthetic, like Vaseline. They are not recommended for use with a condom and can cause irritation.

Breyer BN, et al. (2012). Recreational urethral sounding is associated with high risk sexual behaviour and sexually transmitted infections. DOI: Girth is measured in millimeters. Choose a small one if you’re just starting out, and gradually increase the size by small increments. Shape Campos-Juanatey F, et al. (2016). Management of penile urethral strictures: Challenges and future directions. DOI: Titanium sounders are easier to insert and heavy enough to slide in on their own, but are inflexible. If you have a penis, get partially erect. Being fully erect can make the urethral opening tighter or make the penis too sensitive for insertion.

Silicone sounders are flexible and softer, but may be hard to slide in because of their textured surface. Length If you have a penis, some can wrap around your glans like a hoop with a ball attached that goes into the urethral opening. TextureOil-based lubricants are slippery and long-lasting, which is why sex experts like them. Coconut oil-based lubes especially have become popular in recent years. However, “oil-based lubes cannot be used with polyisoprene or latex condoms, as the lube can cause them to weaken and break,” says Mason. We do recommend using condoms for any kind of sex, so ensure that you find a compatible option (like lambskin, nitrile, or polyurethane condoms) should you opt for an oil-based lube. What to look for when shopping for anal lube From sexy silicone lubes that double as hair products to eco-friendly, water-based formulas, we rounded up seven of our favorite body-safe lubes to add to your collection. Need more tips on how to use it? We've got plenty right here. Beyond the base of the lubricant, there are other things to keep in mind when looking for a go-to option. Mason recommends a high-viscosity, long-lasting lube for extra comfort. Jojoba oil, olive oil, grapeseed oil, sunflower oil, or sweet almond oil are also good ingredients to look for, per the Cleveland Clinic. A fragrance-free lube is ideal for everyone, but if you have sensitive skin or you've been sensitive to lube in the past, it’s even more important to find an option that’s hypoallergenic and made without fragrances. “Use a high-quality lube, be patient, and take the time to really enjoy yourself and set time aside to get fully aroused for sex,” Gigi Engle, ACS, a certified sex educator and host of Internet Sex Therapy, tells SELF. “The more lube the better. I always say you shouldn’t be thinking there can be “too much” lube. You should want to be on a water slide. It just makes everything better. This applies for all kinds of sex—but is especially important during anal—because the anal doesn’t self-lubricate like a vagina.” What you should avoid in an anal lube All of the experts we spoke to discouraged the use of flavored or scented personal lubricants for anal, vaginal, and oral sex. What’s more, avoid glycerin in your lubes, as it contains sugar, and that can alter vaginal pH, SELF previously reported. Water-based lube is also the best lube for sensitive skin. According to Engle and Dr. Queen, you should also avoid petroleum-based lubricants, and anything with parabens or preservatives. Oh, and please don’t put Vaseline down there. If you use a lube with numbing agents that gives you “tingly” or desensitizing sensations for vaginal sex, Dr. Queen says to skip it for anal play. “Anal sex can be painful when it’s not done right, but you want to listen to those messages and respond accordingly,” she says. “Slow down, add lube, take a break, ask your partner to be more gentle, etc. You don’t want to ignore your body’s signals. If you’re numb, you won’t receive those signals clearly, which can put you at risk.” Lube makes pretty much every type of sex better, end of story. It's crucial for anal sex, as the rectum isn't self-lubricating, and it enhances vaginal sex as well. There are a few things to keep in mind when shopping for lube. It's wise to avoid glycerin, parabens, and sugars, as they can lead to yeast and bacterial infections for people with vulvas. Numbing agents are also a no-no: You want to feel more, not less, and pain is an important signal that you could be going too hard or fast. Oils are also not the best choice for vulvas since they've been known to lead to irritation, and they're also not latex-friendly and could even break a condom. Silicone-based varieties are great since they're long-lasting and fantastic for butt stuff, but they don't mix well with silicone toys — liquid silicone can degrade solid silicone. Never fear, intrepid lube user, there are a plethora of water-based options available for your next pegging session.

Healthline has strict sourcing guidelines and relies on peer-reviewed studies, academic research institutions, and medical associations. We avoid using tertiary references. You can learn more about how we ensure our content is accurate and current by reading our editorial policy. Use gentle, unscented soap and warm water to wash your hands and your outer genital areas. Position Go slowly! Don’t force it in if you feel pressure or rush the toy through the urethra. Some heavy toys, like steel or titanium plugs, slide in on their own. Gently and slowly remove the toy from your urethra. Take your time! Stop or go slower if it feels painful or uncomfortable. Add more lube near your urethral opening if you need to. Apply a lot of lube near the urethral opening and to your toy. Use a water-based, chemical-free lube.

What to look for when shopping for anal lube

Most sounders are long and thin. Some are completely straight. Others curve slightly or have bulges in the middle or at the ends. Try to feel for the toy from the skin above. Then, try to push the toy out by gently squeezing the tissues around where the toy entered. Pee right away to remove any bacteria or lube in your urethra. It’s normal for it to sting or burn a little bit for a day or two afterward. Try to relax your genital muscles. This will help loosen the urethral muscles and make the toy more likely to slip out. Don’t force it in if it’s not going in as far as you want it to. Gently remove it and add more lube to the toy and your genital area. You may also want to try a smaller or thinner toy.