I Hate You - Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

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Often, the suicide threats or suicide attempts are not a wish to die but rather a way to communicate pain and a plea for attention and intervention. Instead of listing all the pros, this is simply the best overview of BPD I have ever read. Also Read The quest often leads to partners with complementary pathology leading to toxic relationships and destructive relationship dances. A highly critical supervisor can also make the hypersensitive BPD overreact and fly in uncontrolled anger (remember that the BPD is hypersensitive to rejection). Job Hopping With their erratic behavior and their need and fear for intimacy at the same time, they often end up repelling the people with whom they most want to connect.

That’s not really a scientific or prudent approach in my opinion. He should have at least prefaced that diagnoses saying they are far from accurate. Some studies say that around 6% of the US population suffers from BPD, but Jerold Kreisman says that figure might be an underestimation. I recognize how bad you are feeling and your wish to die. I know you said that if I cared at all for you, I should just leave you alone. Medication tends not to be helpful long term, but can be used for short term relief. Real Life Applications If she is a BPD for example, she can end up with an insecure man who displays fake confidence and needs a helpless partner to feel strong and in control (also read: codependent no more).BPD add to their woes by “feeling bad about feeling bad”. The author recommends BPDs accept feeling bad as a more constructive approach to improving themselves. CONS To me, this is an example of seeing connections where there are likely none (read “ Fooled by Randomness“).

Both pharmacological and psychotherapeutic advancements point to real hope for success in the treatment and understanding of BPD. Periods of great freedom, less structured relationships and open sexual mores are more difficult for the BPD to handle. Classical psychoanalysis is best avoided because it’s an unstructured environment in which BPD do very poorly. This would make sense because there are different “levels” of being a BPD. Some function better in society while some others struggle more and present more marked signs. It’s A Mix of Nature & NurtureIndeed, as long as their job is well structured, it can work as a sanctuary from their turbulent personal lives. Most of BPD’s self-esteem is achieved by impressing others, so pleasing others becomes critical to the BPD’s own self-love. A Bit Like a Child Support statements must help the BPD feel like she is cared for, which is something she struggles with, since the BPD feels like she needs to earn acceptance again and again. The author says that the threats and the rage are sometimes a way to test for commitment (not to be confused with shit tests during the courtship phase). The Workplace for The BPD