Communion: The Female Search for Love: 2 (Love Song to the Nation, 2)

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ok my 17 year old self feels a lil guilty giving 2 stars to bell hooks, an author who was so formative in developing my feminist consciousness. She discusses the false idea that women are naturally more loving, showing how this is part of patriarchy, and argues that everyone can (and must) learn to love, optimally beginning in childhood. Oh, how I was filled with delight when I heard Mama and her friends carry on about the joys of "the change of life. By using the Web site, you confirm that you have read, understood, and agreed to be bound by the Terms and Conditions. A woman who does not learn how first to fulfill her psychological needs for acceptance will always operate from a space of lack.

Through hooks, I have gained more insight into the areas of conflict present in my understanding of love and my relationship towards love. My one edit is that her book exists in this binary, gendered world, and seems to exclude trans and nonbinary people. kitabın kendisine gelirsek, ben sevgi arayışı, sevginin ne olduğu/olmadığı, neden inatla bu kadar önemli olduğu konusunda bu kadar düşünmemiştim. Nothing was more frightening to women who wanted to be with men than a feminist movement exposing the depths of male contempt and disregard for the female sex.As women have changed our minds about aging, no longer seeing it as negative, we have begun to think differently about the meaning of love in midlife. at the same time, let's also rejoice that intersectional feminist thought has moved beyond the gender binary and heteronormative language that makes this book feel so dated. Women, as Hooks claims, are left to grapple with a corporate job that pays the bills and a second shift of satisfying a man who is sometimes impossible to read.

Though feminist rhetoric has supported female sexual liberation, Hooks warns about the slippery slope between women filling the unfulfilled spaces of their lives with sexual voraciousness. I'm a big proponent of BDSM, and often find myself annoyed at the negative tone almost everything I read takes toward it. It is, however, the ideal choice for women who have always silently wondered why intimacy and true fulfillment appear to be more fantasies than realities. And I’m sure bell hooks herself would disagree with this attitude, and she did briefly mention that lesbian relationships can lack meaningful love, but I still came away with the impression of “gay people are magic!

A handwave explanation of "therapy, feminism, and menopause" as a cure for the pains of the patriarchy didn't make up for the fact that I didn't see any woman's journey to self-love or successful "true" love. There really is so much power and satisfaction in self love and it bleeds into every aspect of your life.