Don't Hold My Head Down

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The straights follow an agenda that's defined by PornHub, Cosmo articles on pleasing your lover, and vestigial Christian guilt. Women's sexual pleasure has been suppressed, feared, denied and punished over thousands of years, and women have been murdered and mutilated because of it" (p. It takes the idea of explicit consent much further, also demonstrating that within sexual encounters, each partner can slide between the various stages of the wheel throughout their encounter. We all must do better and make our sex lives as fulfilled as we want them to be, not what other people or society imply, demand, or suggest, and that comes through loud, clear and unambiguously.

A humorous, self-deprecating, and self-effacing but intelligent and inquisitive narrator takes us on a belated journey of sexual self-discovery that is both educational and liberating. But, if there’s anything isolating about the book, besides the isolation that ultimately comes from reading the experiences of someone who isn’t like you, it’s the unstoppable British slang and voicey-ness. For all the author's openness and honesty about sex and her experiences, there is still a natural element of awkwardness around the subject in our society and I think this has manifested itself in the 'Bridget Jones light' tone that the book has at times. I suspect that most people have a sex life not unlike mine, but happy to be shouted down if I'm misguided in that.

En tarkoita, että tahtoisin lukea pelkkää kuivakkaa asiatekstiä seksistä, ehei en ollenkaan, mutta jotenkin sellainen humoristinen kepeä vähän ”itsekriittinen” ja -tarkkaileva sävy on vaan niin väsynyttä. Holmes kirjoittaa yhteiskunnallisesti erittäin tärkeistä aiheista, kuten siitä, miten porno on miesten miehille tekemää, eikä naisten mielipiteitä, toiveita tai haluja kuulla tai nähdä siinä.

There is such a lot here to consider, and to take - as a counsellor who has worked with survivors of sexual abuse, consent has always been something that I am familiar with but here, in a section on BDSM, there is an explanation of the consent wheel, which is just fabulous. For years and years, I’ve lived my life as a woman who has been told about sex and shown about sex from a man’s perspective. As you read through, more and more it feels as though the intended demographic is simply previous versions of herself. It blows stereotypes about sex, silence and stigma wide open, unflinchingly confronts the reality of women’s complex sexual lives without patronising or preaching, and best of all it will make you laugh yourself silly at the same time! Kirjassa Holmes käy omaelämäkertamaisesti läpi omaa seksuaalista matkaansa ja seikkailujaan hauskalla ja viihteellisellä tyylillä, ja yhdistää sitten kokemuksensa tiukkaan yhteiskunta-analyysiin ja paukuttaa naisten seksuaaliseen asemaan liittyvät ongelmakohdat ja faktat tiskiin.

I want to make sure to draw attention to and applaud Holmes on her inclusion of writing about motherhood and sex apres giving birth. Holmes has written a very honest memoir about her journey to discover her own sexuality, or perhaps at least, more about her sexuality. God do we need this book' Caroline Criado Perez 'It's really, really bloody good, a hilarious, moving sexual odyssey' --Beth McColl --This text refers to the paperback edition. Myöskään muut vähän samaa aihepiiriä sivuavat viime aikoina ilmestyneet kirjat kuten Runkkarin käsikirja tai Himokirja eivät vaan mitenkään tyyliltään viehätä, olen yrittänyt lukea niitä, mutta en päässyt ekaa kymmentä sivua pidemmälle. Of course, it’s a book that you should read if not to understand yourself but to gain empathy for the female experience.