Gentle Guidance: How to Understand, Inspire and Empower Your Kids

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Using ‘thank you’ rather than ‘please’ when giving a direction which you expect the child to follow was a key tool. Whilst standards of behaviour improved, some are struggling with the school’s strict behaviour policy. Just as when you're on a plane and are advised to get your own oxygen mask on in an emergency before helping your child, the same applies when it comes to behaviour. With so many pressures on your time, your energy and your resources, it can be difficult to give your child everything they need emotionally, and even more so when you're faced with defiance, disruption or challenging behaviour. Marie is a Specialist Leader of Education (SLE) and a Behaviour Advisor for the Department for Education (DfE).

With child mental health problems on the rise and record numbers missing from school, concerns have been raised about declining standards of behaviour and hours of education lost. Founder of Magic Behaviour Management, she trains schools and family services in her bespoke method to set up positive foundations and practical ways to support children through disruptive times. The Greatest Secret, the long-awaited major work by Rhonda Byrne, lays out the next quantum leap in a journey that will take the listener beyond the material world and into the spiritual realm, where all possibilities exist. The way we perceive behaviour, how we think about it, what we expect from a child, and our beliefs about how they should behave have a direct impact on how we feel. We have a choice in how we respond to any given situation, and the more we practise, the better we will become at supporting our children.Since your training, we have talked a lot about our own containment and times when we have not managed our own balance, we now acknowledge that we need to prioritise this for both our school community and ourselves. We had visits from Holly Branson, Princess Beatrice and the Rev Rose Hudson-Wilkin, and we got carried away. BBC 2’s recent ‘Don’t Exclude Me’ series provided a thought-provoking insight into the behaviour difficulties children, their teachers and school staff experience daily in primary schools. Gentles spent her first seven years at Hawkswood as its deputy head, the past three as its head, and she feels she couldn’t be leaving it in a better place.

You don't need to fit into a box with your parenting style, but using Marie's gentle guidance, you'll be equipped to raise a resilient child who in turn has the tools they need to deal with anything life throws at them – whether they are fifteen months or fifteen years, it's never too late to start. However, in this new book, Marie Gentles draws on decades of expertise supporting families to give you the toolkit you need to be the best parent you can be - and the best bit? Identify things that are emotionally containing for you - in other words things that make you feel good and practice on a daily basis. One of those headlines in June this year – “Inside pupil referral unit where ‘unteachable’ kids as young as FIVE often ask teachers for a hug” – was about Marie Gentles’ school. Over two episodes and her second series for the BBC, Marie will be working with one improving secondary school to see if her technique can transform behaviour to ensure students can thrive at school.

The programme also provided insight into the perception of excluded children, who often see themselves as ‘bad’, leading to rejection, a lack of confidence and difficulties with social relationships. Gentles’ father, Geoffrey, a BT engineer on shift work for most of his career, instilled self-belief in his children. The head of Hawkswood primary PRU in Waltham Forest, east London, was the only leader (dozens were asked) who allowed journalists in as part of The Sun’s investigation into children in PRUs, some supposedly as young as two, as a result of exclusion. Marie Gentles draws on her decades of expertise supporting children across the behavioural spectrum, along with their parents and teachers, to show us how to establish positive relationships that bring out the best in our children.

That segregation was never right, but Gentles points out that today’s challenges, like county lines, don’t discriminate and make partnership all the more pressing. At a subconscious level, we believe that if we fix or stop the behaviour, then the way the behaviour is making us feel will also stop. The people of Japan believe that everyone has an ikigai - a reason for being; the thing that gets you out of bed each morning. The only man in history to complete elite training as a Navy SEAL, Army Ranger, and Air Force tactical air controller, he went on to set records in numerous endurance events. Working with Jayliyah, her mum Gemma, and the school – can Marie turn things around before it’s too late?However, because of where we are, we also need to invest in PRUs and AP because there’s a growing need for them. Senior paramedic Claire is dispatched to liaise between the hospital and the ambulance service, while the Hazardous Area Response Team prepares to transport the patient to North Manchester General Hospital’s infectious disease unit. When a child is behaving in undesirable ways, it can feel like we are failing or not getting it right, and from that perspective we may try to fix or stop the behaviours in the moment. Being with your partner may feel like rainbows and unicorns, but that doesn't mean you have a healthy, functioning relationship. This life-changing Audible Original features a powerful mix of one-on-one life-coaching sessions and a personal narrative with vital take-aways that you can start using immediately.