DIRTY LAUNDRY: Why adults with ADHD are so ashamed and what we can do to help

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The way Richard’s parts of this book reads feels as though he endlessly infantilizes his partner due to her ADHD. It is very specific to her and to them, but I found it really helpful to hear how someone on the other side of therapy explains how ADHD affects her. As a neurospicy woman married to a diagnosed ADHD man I’ve been hyper focusing on helping him overcome his shame and anxiety. I'm awarding myself a huge pat on the back for actually getting around to reviewing this book (rather than just doing it in my head and forgetting to post any review). I never thought about the possibility that maybe the meds only “fix” a portion of my symptoms and not ALL of them and that I may not actually be a sh*t human!

If you have ADHD —or love somebody who does— DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships. That said, she also had to have more of a healing period than a lot of us, and she does show her work with how she's been progressing. We also do not know how she works her recovery programme -- the 12 steps are quite spiritual, but she makes no mention of any spiritual practice -- which suggests her partner may be her 'higher power' in all of this. I also think the book could have used more diversity as it’s more of a memoir of them overcoming the challenges in their own relationship that were caused by ADHD.That whole "your ADHDer" thing that's said in almost every paragraph of the book was very painful to read. Every chapter starts with a common symptom of ADHD, like impulsivity or struggles with finances, and an earnest moment from their own lives to show you how they navigate the symptom together. If I'd have one criticism (and I do) is that the book (and the social media) are from the perspective of helping the ND partner function in society and how much the NT partner is doing, how aware they are, how patient, loving and understanding.

Not least of these are the supplies and materials for “House of Resin,” a company that she spent three weeks building after seeing someone making a beautiful wooden table inlaid with a waterfall made of blue resin. If you are lucky enough to have a spouse, family member, or friend who can support you then this book may be a good starting point for them to understand some of the ADHD struggles that many people face and how to support them. This book has really helped me express to other people in my life how I feel and understand it myself. Hyperfocus is an extremely intense ability to focus on a particular subject, for a duration of time that cannot be estimated. As someone that hasn’t followed the authors on social media, I went in to this book looking for tips and new perspectives on managing ADHD, but left disappointed.

Learn how to:- Stop believing you are fundamentally broken- Stop judging yourself by the standards of a neurotypical world- Communicate your struggles to those who love you- Support someone with ADHD in ways that work for them- Be compassionate rather than judgemental …and much more. If I may join in that style, then "Rox" has more serious co-morbid undiagnosed neurodivergent challenges. From the viral TikTok duo, atADHD_Love comes a tried-and-tested, no-guilt and no-shame guide to self-love and navigating relationships with ADHDIf you have ADHD - or love somebody who does - DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships. I was lucky enough to receive a copy of this from ‘A’ through the post as she thought I might find it helpful. It was the same information repeated - but each had perspective A: adhd author, and then the same stuff again from perspective B: neurotypical author.