You Only Fall in Love Three Times: The Secret Search for Our Twin Flame

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Generally speaking, your first love is when you’re young. I’m not talking early 20s, I’m talking high school young. Young enough to know what love is but not what it truly means. This love is entirely idealistic, it’s what you imagine love to be from watching all sorts of films and reading all sorts of magazines about this thing they call ‘love’. It seems like a fairy tale, it feels right. The three-time love theory also has its own shortcomings in that we may not fall in love only three absolute times in our entire lifetime. These three times can represent three phases of love with several love experiences in between. Love isn’t about finding your “soulmate” or trying to match personalities, love is about finding someone (or letting someone find you) who loves in the same way that you do. Sure, there will always something special about our first love, and perhaps deep down (somewhere we should probably steer clear of) we can all find something ironically exceptional about our second, but we’ll only truly find total contentment with the third.

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According to Rose, love is a journey of self-discovery and every relationship we have in our lives teaches us something that we need to learn about ourselves and what will make us truly happy. She discussed the three times we all fall in love and their significance to our love life. 1. The Soulmate Love This is the love that breaks us. We make conscious efforts to make it work and we fail to question if that is possible. In the end, this love fails leaving our hearts shattered once again. For most of us, falling in love is a state of vulnerability when one feels emotionally enchanted by someone else. You want to be with the person, you want to see them always, you don’t want to hurt them in any way, and you might experience butterfly feelings in your belly.While I generally consider experiencing the phases personally as a better way to learn about love, it is totally fine to learn your lessons in a milder way. The lessons you learn about love from the three stages of love prepare you for what love should be. How long would it take to find the third love? To understand the number of times we fall in love in our lifetime, it is proper to clarify what we mean when we say someone has fallen in love. Falling in love is a special emotional feeling that makes you physically and sexually attracted to someone.

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Relationships themselves always spark my interest (if you hadn’t already guessed). Why do we do the things we do, or what makes us think or act a certain way – the psychology behind it all fascinates me. Naturally, my obsession with finding out more about the way we humans are wired leads me to reading all sorts of books and forums and blogs about it. Most recently, I stumbled across an article I found particularly interesting about love.

The second love teaches us a lesson about who we are and how we deeply need to be loved. It teaches us that love is not obtained by force or coercion. This love opens us up to the third love that lasts. The first love is the love that feels right. It is what is closest to the fairy tale love stories you may have read or heard of. It is the love that appeals to what society thinks about love and you might do stupid things for its sake. This theory also believes that no matter what happens, the only person one can ever be permanently comfortable with is the one person we truly love and no one else. However, this theory is not as realistic as the theory of three-time love. The commonest dating mistake people make in finding love After having realised what love might be from your first, and after having realised what love shouldn’t be from your second, your third is by far the best, as it’s the love that makes you believe in love. While these theories have their own explanations, I will see how I can make them clear as much as I can, beginning with the three-time theory of how many times we fall in love in our lifetime. The “Three-Time Theory”

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This theory supposes that we only fall in love once in our entire lifetime and that the rest are not exactly “falling in love”. This theory believes that we all have a soulmate, and even when things do not go on between us and our soulmate, we still have a place for them in our hearts. The third love – the happy ending love – is unexpected in more ways than one. The idealistic love that you’ve had pictured in your head for years has now been quashed by this person as they aren’t the person you envisaged falling for but my God, have you fallen. With this person, love is like oxygen (yeah, I said it) and it just works, it feels right.Recall that Kate Rose related these three types of love experiences to the development of our ideology about love. Each love has a specific reason, lesson, or significance in our love life. Finding the third type of love does not necessarily have to take a lifetime but it could take a long time for some people. That often depends on their openness to learn and break out of the cycle of remaining in one phase of love for so long. You don’t necessarily have to fall in love three times before you find the perfect love that lasts. This is because you can learn about these stages from other people, books, and a blog like this, without having to experience all the harshness of romantic relationships. Falling is a beautiful experience that is typically described by the electrifying experience it produces in the individual but love itself is more than just the feelings. This time, it was not about what society thinks or the general assumptions about love. You wanted to do things differently by compromising your standards and expectations, amongst others, just to make it work. 3. The Twin Flame