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But LeJeune says that not everyone is there to indulge the occasional fantasy – some women have experienced trajectory changes in their lovelife after attending Skirt Club parties. There were about 12 couples in a serviced apartment, there was Jatz and cheese and dips. People were standing around making small talk and having drinks, then after about half an hour, a couple of the girls yelled out ‘let’s get started’. So a few couples moved to a bedroom and started getting it on with each other, then some more people joined in. By the end of the night, everyone was naked and having sex with each other” I got a lot of young women in their 20s asking me how they could run a blog,” she says. “What I really noticed about Skirt Club at the beginning was that rather than just being hedonistic, it was a great social opportunity to meet liberal, like-minded women. And it’s typical to how women express sexuality. It’s not just nudity and sex.”
Louise* also considers herself a unicorn even though she is still married. “About ten years ago, I found myself alone as a single mum with two young children as my partner travelled overseas for work nine months of the year. My sex life was restricted to watching porn and using a vibrator when the children slept. I didn’t want to get into the complexities of having an affair, but I missed the adult company. My partner suggested I go to a sex club as we both agreed it was safer emotionally and physically.” A lesbian staple at lovely Dalston Superstore. For trash-pop and guilty pleasures stay upstairs.Or if you want to get sweaty, descend into the basement for house, techno and acid. It attracts big-name DJs too. The likes of Honey Dijon, Joyce Muniz and DJ Heather have played there. I’ve known a few women who have never dated women but dive into a full relationship (after) meeting someone at Skirt Club,” she says. “It’s rare but it has happened.” Once again, she repeats her rejection of a label. “Just because you might have had sex with a girl, it doesn’t mean you’re gay.”
We are joined by our sexy friends, Mr. and Mrs. Red, for some drinks and a lot of laughs as we recount the hot and amazing weekend we shared together. Listen in on the fun and hear about their first experience at Trapeze (FTL) and their review of VR porn. Also we have a big announcement at the end of the episode! I asked my girlfriend Courtney, whose shaved head makes her much more obviously queer than me, if she’d be interested in going. I think we’re at a fascinating time in sexual community where everything is queer and therefore nothing is queer,” Moon says. “Parties like Skirt Club redraw boundaries that have blurred in many sexual communities, and I can imagine that might upset some people. But I do think it’s healthy and good to create spaces centering on different identities.”
No one says the word “lesbian” all night, with the exception of one girl who asks me, “Are we not supposed to say the ‘L-word’ here?” At one point during the segment, full of sounds of bodies slapping, the journalist asks the man she is having sex with if he can tell her what he’s seeing and he responds a "delicious woman," the English-language Copenhagen Post reported. I’ve hosted a lot of women’s sex parties, and many of them require significant warm-up time to get the girls feeling comfortable and ready to play,” she says. “Not so with Skirt Club. These women dove right in. And yes, it was really hot.”LeJeune says the company accepts “the high majority” of applicants, while remaining “focused on building a femme membership of career driven women.” But she wouldn’t give more details about why some women weren’t allowed in. The burlesque dancer takes labored breaths between stanzas, eyes going big from the sweeping movements. Nervous giggles and claps emerge at intervals from the crowd. It’s unclear whether this show is for the women, or for the stories they will tell their boyfriends after. The invitation to Skirt Club, a women-only, bisexual and bi-curious sex party, tells you one thing, loud and clear: This may be a girls-only orgy, but it’s not lesbianism as you know it. This is Katy Perry singing “I kissed a girl and I liked it.” This is an Agent Provocateur window display. This is the kind of awkward, lighthearted, lesbianism many women either had – or wished they’d had – in college. It’s “lesbianism” that lesbians will recognize, but have a hard time endorsing without some irony. It’s lesbianism as a side piece. It’s lesbianism: our little secret, for women whose bi-curiosity has become too overwhelming to ignore. We have officially moved our Sapphic Swinger headquarters to the Denver area! In this long overdue episode, we sample some Colorado cannabis and chat about why we moved cross-country along with some fun shenanigans that led up to the big move! Forgot to mention you get 15% off at casualtoys.com with coupon code FSU. Thanks for listening sexies! It’s not just guys that Louise is attracted to when she goes out alone “I am polysexual, so I am attracted to people rather than a specific sex. If I am playing with a couple, it doesn’t matter how nice he is, I have to connect with her as well. If I’m playing with a single guy, then he can’t take himself too seriously, make me laugh and make me feel like I’m the only woman in the room, and you’re halfway there. Sometimes for fun, I will see a couple playing together and if I catch her eye and I can see she is interested, I will just walk up and start kissing her. His reaction is usually jaw-dropping, especially if they are new to the scene.”
In some cases, Quinn says, women saw Skirt Club events more like a networking opportunity than a sex party. At the last London party she attended, a number of women wanted to network. I ask Moon what she thinks of the party. The Skirt Club events, she says, are providing femme, bi curious women their own space to experiment. “It’s a safe place to explore without it having to ‘mean’ anything about their identity,” she says. “I don’t think the parties are gay, per se. Just as I don’t think fooling around with someone of the same sex is necessarily gay. The words we have to describe sexuality are too frail to contain the dynamism of the human experience.” She’s right, of course. Skirt Club is undeniably pretty – maybe too pretty, and expensive, and heteronormative to attract or accept everyone who might like it. It’s taken me a lot of courage to… put my face on the front of the company that says, ‘Being bi is OK,'” she says. Soon, a pinup-style, bejeweled burlesque dancer with wavy pink hair and opulent breasts begins to shake and strip to the music. Burlesque shows are a rarity at most sex parties in the Bay Area, but a staple at Skirt Club events. Homegrown “play parties” are fairly low-key here, and with more diversity of women. Instead of the mostly skinny, femme, cis-gender women at Skirt Club, local parties tend to have women of all sizes from all parts of the gender, race and sexuality spectrum. It’s easy to see why Skirt Club, with its palatial seating, soft lighting and femmy vibe, could be an easier sell to women who don’t want to go too far outside of the hetero-norms they’re used to.
I feel like I just think it’s cool when the reporters try to make the stories in a different way," she said. The ultimate club night for every queer woman, trans or non-binary babe in the capital is absolutely buzzing – this Ancient Greek-themed party even made a cheeky appearance in Desiree Akhavan’s TV show ‘The Bisexual’. It’s a Sapphic sanctuary crammed into a step-free basement bar where female and non-binary DJs smash out the best of R&B and pop goddesses – think Rihanna, Robyn and Madonna. Shun Hades for this queer underworld – you’ll have him shitting rainbows. I don’t even know what is happening. But I like it,” she says. Later though, Breanna says that she couldn’t quite wrap her head around the event.
LeJeune says that when she was looking to experiment with her sexuality, she couldn’t find a space where she felt comfortable. She didn’t want to go to lesbian parties because she worried women there might be looking for a relationship, while she was not. She concedes that she may have been wrong, but she felt too intimidated to find out. So, she started her own event. By 10:30, the party is winding down.Before I leave, a woman named Sonja tells me the story of her first same-sex experience with a female friend. They both identified as straight at the time, so the first time they made out with each each other, they figured, “This isn’t gay.” Then they had sex. “But we said, ‘We’re not gay!’ And we kept doing it and saying, ‘We’re still not gay!’ Then one day we realized – we were totally gay,” she says. The X-rated segment focused on the reopening of a swingers club named Swingland in Ishoj after the lifting of COVID-19 restrictions – and Fischer discussed the reactions to her unorthodox interview style. Her girlfriend Jess, who is more androgynously dressed in jeans, a button-up shirt and vest, tells me that she feels out of place – but not as much as she expected. Everyone’s pretty hot and friendly. Courtney agrees. She’d expected to feel unwelcome, but doesn’t. In some ways, she tells me, Skirt Club feels more comfortable than queer parties she’s been to.Mentioned in this episode: Piano player https://ambercolesings.com ; Burlesque https://thelalas.com; Sex toys https://www.casualtoys.com - use coupon code FSU for 15% off! Indeed, along with the women who identify as bisexual, there seemed to be a fair number of women who say they hadn’t had any girl-and-girl experiences and identified as straight, but were nonetheless game – not surprising, really, given how likely women are to be attracted to both sexes. So at 7:30 on a Thursday night, Courtney and I arrive for the party at a club in the South of Market neighborhood. It’s cold and drizzling, the kind of weather that’s more encouraging of Netflix and chill than sexual adventures. A male bouncer lets us past the door into a bar area warmed by tungsten glow and furnished with afghan rugs, ample seating on red velvet-covered chairs and inexplicable, charming typewriters. Women mill about the room. With its clubbing roots in south-east London, BBZ prioritises queer women, trans folk and non-binary people of colour. It’s got fab ressie DJs like Sherelle – she exploded after her Boiler Room set went massive this year – and is part of an exciting creative collective with a socially conscious ethos. Unicorns admit that even people in the swinging community are surprised when a single female arrives by herself at a sex party.
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