Caged in Chastity: the complete trilogy: The trilogy of a husband's imposed chastity to his dominant wife!

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A positive learning experience provides rewards for goals met, praise for active participation and goal achievement. If you want your man to do the laundry to your standard, joyfully invite him to see how you do it. Explain what you are thinking as you go and have him repeat what you did giving him only positive reinforcement for what he is doing right and showing him what he needs to relearn. The goal is to learn how to do the laundry. Once he does give him affection and praise. Training your man by achievable learning goals and rewards Firstly it was the bit about women having to defend their stay at home husbands. We have always both worked, me part time for a while but both full time latterly. But I do have friends where the husband is the home maker and, now that you’ve raised it in my consciousness, I can recall how these women are ‘protective’ of their domestic status. And I must admit that there has been a part of me who has thought that it was a odd arrangement where perhaps the husband wasn’t pulling his weight and was a bit of a failure. Not fair I know, but probably part of my own social conditioning that I have entertained these thoughts. Another advantage is limiting man’s masturbation. Slave’s to their libido, and addicted to porn, if not limited – men experience low self-esteem and guilt. Img source: chrisandruth.com The lawn, flowers, trees and shrubs should be maintained in a manner that is no less than the attached photos (include photos) and should be maintained on a weekly basis.

He’s still the same guy I married, plus so much more. It’s the principle of semen retention that decided this marriage is now a FLR. The only rule we have is the ejaculation schedule with severe consequences for unauthorized spills. Everything flows from that, from his submissive giving nature to my dominance. I really think women are missing out on so much if they are not in a relationship like this with a semen retaining male. The world would be a different place if this was the norm. Once his balls are in your purse where he wants them to be, your relationship will transcend. I don’t know why, but men crave this command structure, and we women aren’t always good at providing it. But if we master it, the rewards are beyond measure. I hope blogs like this are the beginning of a change in our culture. I really only can say what works for us. I hope our experience has been useful for some. We’ve tried a FLR in the past but it just fizzled with time. I enjoyed it, but I guess it didn’t resonate with me. This time it’s so important to me on so many levels, and gels with spiritual traditions of the past. I see it as central to how I as a woman will transcend in my spiritual practice. ~Namaste To be honest, we can’t exhaust all about husband training. But a cumulative of real experiences make up these essential tips. Our tips revolve around the golden rule of doing unto others… You know the rest. Learning goals and rewards begin with your selecting what he is to learn. He will ask for a reward of his choosing (you can limit his choices by using a list). You will teach him and watch his progress. When he learns the task, he has met his goal and is to be commended. When he shows prolonged retention of that learning he gets the reward. Training your man by coaching Generally what you want your man to learn in your female led relationship and what he wants to learn are very different. You want him to learn to overcome his bad habits, work independently, find fulfillment in growing, gain confidence in your leadership and participate as your supportive follower. He want to learn how to serve your body, obey your commands, please you sexually, humble himself and learn what it is like to surrender. Because of the difference and size of the task at hand you must choose your targets. In management 101, when faced with a large number of tasks you must prioritize them, take the top ten and do as many as you can. Delegate where you can and just maintain a list of the ones that don’t get done. There is, however, the added complication of keeping both of you motivated.In the model, role reversal, 50s bride style. Household chores are not contracted out. The contract is tacit. The submissive is supposed to know him and have integrated him. Sex (Absolutely her control area. She decides when and what she wants, I don’t decide anything. I’m allowed to ask, but not beg. And I’m not allowed to ask all the time (don’t be annoying!) but only carefully when she’s in the mood. Chastity and strict orgasm control are absoltely mandatory to her, no exeptions)

Clearly everybody has their unique dynamics that would define differences from others, or even what you have laid out here, but what you have laid out here is excellent IMHO. Written agreement or not? It’s really not that important. What is important is that there is an agreement. I would tend to agree that a written agreement is more helpful in both people staying focused on what has been determined or agreed upon going forward. Ms. K and I had used written agreements/rules from the outset of our WLM, but later felt that is was no longer necessary or useful as our WLM matured. Chastity isn’t just about abstaining from sex. That would be too easy and not that kinky, right? The true spirit of chastity lifestyle lies in the power exchange (naturally) and the fact that the keyholder has all of it. So chastity enthusiasts aren’t really abstaining from sex and sexual gratification — it is forbidden to them. I think it might effect your libido if you go that long as well as your erections, but again I don’t know. You don’t want the libido of a celibate priest where things might just shut down. Eventually, your body will just release the semen on its own with nocturnal emissions. You may be doing that already. In that case, you don’t get to enjoy it. You don’t want to defeat your sex drive, you want to increase it. Hopefully your wife is enjoying your increased drive and better erections. Andre, you wrote “Her comment being that I was not a child and she did not want to treat me as a child”. One question. How does your view of the family extend out into the rest of the world, especially because you say that you and most women prefer alpha males. If the alpha male is submissive only to his own wife or mate, then what happens in the work world? Wouldn’t it be good for his attitude toward you to carry over to all women?

At first, I was not interested. It did not turn me on and i did not see any benefit to me. However, he brought the subject up several times and it caused me to think again. Obviously, he was turned on by the idea; it seemed fair for me to play along — at least a little; for the sake of marital peace. The weekly stipend is an agreed upon amount of money which may be used for purposes that you deem necessary for your leisure and happiness. Your weekly stipend should not be saved from one week to the next. Switching roles is an ideal way to walk a mile in your partner’s shoes. Even if their role isn’t something you’d necessarily enjoy, it will give you an insight into their mind and feelings. Try Chastity Belts and Devices By way of history, the first inclination of something different was when it came to sex. She wanted to be on top. She said that she found it easier to get aroused. There was a fair bit of experimenting early in the marriage where I would cum before her and go soft and she would be left unsatisfied. She said she wanted us to cum together but I would cum early. We went through a period where she was frustrated and then through discussion we agreed that I would hold off and giver her time to orgasm. But then having held off I couldn’t immediately cum and then I would get frustrated. We also talked through other aspects of sex were she indicated that often she felt obligated to just give me sex so I would not get grumpy or obligated to perform and fake orgasm so then proceed to my orgasm. I really had this desire to look after her and not put pressure on her and the end result of these discussions was that she would initiate sex. I was not to ask or talk about it or beg or plead. I would try to get her in the mood by making sure the house was clean and the chores all done. Give her flowers and so on. Over time, sex is only when she wants it and I never orgasm inside her. I get to masturbate about once a month but sometimes she will make me abstain for several months.

Masturbation is sometimes used as a stress release, which can be replaced by open communication with your partner. Your partner will gladly listen to what you have to say, while it will help you calm your stressed situation down. Masturbation is a one-time / Short time benefit aspect – Why stop yourself on having long term benefits by exploring other avenues? The aim of this wiki is to build an archive of chastity stories. The stories have been divided into 5 sections. Men kept in chastity by women(and vice versa), both lesbian chastity and gay men in chastity, as well as anything that doesn't fit into that category such as where you don't know who the keyholder is or where there are multiple ones. My short answer is I don’t know. There is no consensus in the medical community on it. That is something you will have to research for yourself. There just aren’t enough or any studies on large groups of males that ejaculate that infrequently. I know my husband couldn’t do it. He would probably have a nervous breakdown if I made him wait that long. Any woman that has removed ejaculation from their husband’s life knows how much his personality can be adjusted. He can go from aggressive, lazy and moody with frequent ejaculation to agreeable, compliant, and loving, waiting to serve my every whim when there is very infrequent release. Just adjust the dial to your liking. It’s all the same guy you fell in love with, just different versions. It’s truly transforming how much it can bring a couple closer together.In the traditional household model, the man pays for everything and in turn; the wife gives him sex. While this is clearly an outdated assumption, it is still an implied expectation that is very much present in our society. The concern among men is that the inverse might also be true. When she pays for everything, he doesn’t contribute to the family and therefore does not earn sex. Let’s get to the root of the concern, he is worried that a transition to the home may result in his sexual needs not being met.

In my defense it was literally last day of work on a Thursday, then on Friday I woke up responsible for the full time care of our four kids, and having to accomplish all of the normal tasks of running a house while also supervising the equivalent of four drunk foreigners, (kids do dumb things, and not all of ours were speaking fully yet.) It was overwhelming and took me six months to figure out what winning was, then COVID happened. I became responsible for the education of our two elementary age kids in addition to everything else.

I approach the topic as someone who could enjoy be “kept” in a variety of ways that might be construed, would be happy to serve my wife and her friends at a social gathering and would find a kinky delight in posing for a little drawing or painting session that they might (but certainly won’t) engineer. You must maintain friendships and regularly socialize with other men doing activities that you enjoy. This should be no less than once per week. Even though I had been doing all of the chores for years I and my wife found that I was not getting them done. There were days that I had no idea what I had gotten accomplished, which was little to nothing. While we do have a written agreement of our WLM lifestyle including the chores I am responsible for and the rights for her to punish (spank) me for my disobediences and displeasing behavior my wife had to start giving me daily task which did include when I was to have certain things done like when I should have my shower completed by. It was very helpful to me during that time. Hi Yoga Girl, I am learning a lot from and really excited by your blog. I am an bi-gender male-bodied person who identifies in the middle range between female and male. As I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten more and more disenchanted with and opposed to patriarchy and all forms of male supremacy. Men have made such a mess of the world, and while there have been good things they’ve contributed as well, there are so many signs that their rule is in its last stages. I think female leadership of the family and society is not the only good for women but also is the best and only way to end patriarchy. Now, you have shown me how it is also good for males. The semen retention way is the best way to reconcile the two sexes.