Losing It: A taboo-busting guide to sex and relationships that debunks the myths you were taught at school.

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It seems that everywhere you look, brands and influencers are telling women and men that we are finally free to have sex on our own terms. You may have had additional life experiences and identities such as being part of a queer community, which have allowed you to escape this myopic worldview. It is a myth that went on to fill my own head with life-altering misinformation around sex, and that will undoubtedly have affected women in your life too. Addressing the modern-day taboos that are built within society around sex and relationships, Smith Galer highlights what we're getting wrong and how we could change our approaches to create a more supportive, open and encouraging light around these myths. Smith Galer, a senior news reporter at VICE World News with a 388K-strong following on TikTok, allows readers to reflect on the real-life impact these myths have on us as individuals.

One of those countries is Indonesia, where 97 per cent of the population disapproves of it, and where the army has just announced that it has bowed to pressure from human rights groups to change its rules so that female soldiers no longer have to take virginity tests to join the army. They may be used by those companies to build a profile of your interests and show you relevant adverts on other sites. Even our euphemisms in English for virginity loss – deflowering, popping or busting a cherry – denotes fruit or a flower that is ripe for the taking, and consumed without trace.

we have a long way to go as a society to reach a level of true sex-equity and sex-positivity, but books like losing it go a long way to bridging the gap. It’s so sad what some people are doing to themselves (surgery) due to societal pressure, when it’s just not needed. In Urdu, the verb for to lose that they use is not gomana, like if you lose a pencil; it is kohna, used if you lose something in an abyss or lose direction in life.

After that he disappeared, but I want to find another man, one true to his word, to do the same thing: pics and talking in exchange of money. I wish this book was available when I was growing up, I wish this book was available 10 years ago to help me inform my first born! While the world’s largest religions usually demand chastity for men and women, there is a catch; in lived practice, religious ideology is often responsible for demanding virginity more from women than of men. Being pickier is something that dating apps encourage, which we need to take seriously given that 32 per cent of relationships started between 2015 and 2019 began online, compared to only 19 per cent between 2005 and 2014.

Many books claim to be myth-busting, but this terrific debut truly is … Essential reading for anyone whose sex education and formative sexual experiences were distinctly lacking. In limited curriculums that don’t have the time or funding to explain how power and gender affect our sex lives, there is often little room for addressing the virginity myth head-on – the idea that virginity still attributes value to women. This book was extremely insightful, I did not know that something as seemingly simple as virginity can be so complicated, political and albeit varied in different cultures, yet still centralized across various religious sects and ethnicities internationally.