How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks For Big Success In Relationships

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Luckily, you’ll often find that a smooth introduction is all that’s needed to get a good conversation going. The author starts by saying that Dale Carnegie's book of How to Win Friends and Influence People is not applicable for the 21st century any more. You determine this, of course, but not with those four dirty words that label you as either a ruthless networker, a social climber, a gold-digging husband or wife hunter, or someone who’s never strolled along Easy Street. In our culture, however, big winners know exaggerated eye contact can be extremely advantageous, especially between the sexes. She herself is absolutely the proof that no one should be taking self help advice from her about this subject, since I found listening to her talk torturous.

Final pro tip: at the end of each chapter, there is a summary of the technique outlined within a box. Unfortunately, how the audiobook played out for me felt like the awkward Uncle coming to the family gathering prepared with his scripted conversation pieces. Once, when giving a seminar to several hundred people, one woman's face in the crowd caught my attention.If you want to improve a relationship, maintain eye contact with that person even if they’re not talking, and only break off that contact when you must.

But if you want to make a good impression, use full sentences that show your partner that you’re truly listening, like, “That was the right thing to do,” or, “I see why you did that.However, the Epoxy Eyes technique suggests you concentrate on the listener—your target—rather than the speaker. This slightly disorients the target and he or she silently asks, "Why is this person looking at me instead of the speaker? A lot of really good advice comes across as very superficial, with a focus on making yourself more likeable to the 'big players', rather than to improving and creating more meaningful relationships in general.