The Mood Hoover

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Encouraging self reflection and honesty may help them understand how they are perceived to others and they may make positive changes on their own. Offer encouragement when they express positive thoughts or behaviours, and acknowledge when they try to be more positive. Use affect labeling to diffuse the situation welcoming each thought and emotion as you notice them “That’s tension”, “Hello stress” “And this is anxiety” labeling whatever comes as a thought, feeling or emotion rather than identifying with it.

The penny dropped for me, so when I am sharing the Art of Brilliance’s message, I love to see nodding heads. Perhaps they were neglected or ignored in the past (especially in childhood), and they learned that the only way to get noticed was to create drama or chaos or be negative. The sinks were literally hanging off the wall and the beds hadn’t been changed from the previous occupants! A mood hoover is someone who makes everyone feel sad and unhappy and remains in their comfort zone and a 2%er is someone who is positive, happy and always has a smile on their face - they do random acts of kindness and take responsibility for their actions!If you’re keen to help people in your team see solutions and have a bit more optimism, get in touch. The structure of these procedures and how they are followed are crucial to ensuring an employer is able to resolve the issue with minimal risk of related claims. Your values should be reflected in peer reviews and recommendations, where those who are demonstrating the company values are recognized and rewarded. However if you get yourself into a mental place where you will and can take action then things may change.

Unknowingly these emotional vampires suck the positivity out of everyone around them with their doom and gloom approach to life. While mood hoovers are generally shunned by positive people, it turns out that they may just be doing what comes naturally because scientists believe humans are hardwired to be pessimistic. How do you manage people who like to complain and suck your energy about how hard something is for them (something they chose to do), how much they have to do etc. Moaning about nobody liking her or having no proper friends but can't remember last i heard them say anything nice about any of their friends (she has many) or their children, how they look, what jobs they do, how they all boast about what money and adventures they have whilst moaning about about what little money or adventures they have (they truly are not aware of the irony, contradictory two-facedness of it all). Thankfully, for many of us, life is no longer filled with jeopardy, so we can think around this inherent propensity to look for bad news and learn to have a different outlook.They were tough gigs under normal circumstances but friends who still work at these schools have commented on how hard it’s been recently: increased online lesson observations; formal feedback from recorded PowerPoints; virtual learning walks; additional planning; increased staff meetings. By ignoring the main issue of how a person’s behaviour is affecting others may be the right one in terms of not hurting the person’s feelings, but when is the right time to focus on our own individual needs rather than trying to keep the peace and not upset someone? Stay focused on your own thoughts and feelings, and be mindful of what they are telling you – if you feel very different after hearing someone else talk, talk a moment to re-focus on yourself. Every family has their own way of dealing with issues, but perhaps it isn’t an issue – perhaps that is just the way people are.