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You can stop drinking for a few days but find yourself needing multiple drinks just to get through the day. I started out reading this out loud to an addicted loved one. That fizzled at about the 3 week point, and there was a long break before I took this up again, mainly because I can’t stand not to finish a book if I’ve gotten past a certain point.
So, I had been asking this one question, which was, what’s wrong with you? You know, are you an alcoholic? And these were such scary questions. And in this moment, after a very busy work trip, I was just really in a bad place, and had a few drinks that morning to kind of pair of the dog at the hotel bar. And I was sitting, waiting for my flight very still drunk, very upset with myself massive hangover, everything was kind of on top of me. And I remember thinking, Well, why is it like this? You know, why did I used to be able to take it or leave it and why is it that now this fermented liquid and glass has just such a powerful hold on me, on my emotions, on my thoughts, on my experience of life? I feel like it’s one of the most important things I remember vividly saying, If I can’t have a drink, it’s just not worth going and feeling that way, feeling that if I was had to be the designated driver, or if I was pregnant, like why even socialize because there’s no point without drinking? And in that moment of asking, why did it change? I decided to find out and I did something which is radical I had no idea was radical at the time, but I in trying to find out. I decided I was going to stop trying, to stop drinking.So where do I go from here? I'll decide that. Still taking inventory of the pros/cons and my observations about the changes. If there's one telling indication of the impact this book has had on me, please note this: the author suggests that if you're set on going to moderate drinking after 30 days of being alcohol-free (very important component for this), try getting drunk for science. This involves being completely alone and recording yourself at intervals while consuming enough alcohol to get drunk. My first thought? "Oh, god, no. No. I don't even want to think about it. Moving on." You have a love-hate relationship with alcohol - and find yourself setting limits and then breaking them and losing control when happy hour rolls around. Now complete with daily prompts to reflect on each day of a month-long, alcohol-free plan, the author of This Naked Mind helps readers challenge their thinking, find clarity, and form new habits. At 26, Annie Grace was the youngest Vice President in a multinational company’s history, and her drinking career began in earnest; by 35, she was in a global C-level marketing role, responsible for 28 countries. Drinking close to two bottles of wine a night became a ritual. Annie Grace’s professional success came at a personal price she no longer wanted to pay. She knew alcohol was no longer serving her. Yet, she didn’t want to suffer through life in a daily battle for sobriety, feeling deprived and constantly trying to avoid temptation. But you can go into sobriety with a totally different mind-set. You can go into sobriety thinking, “I dodged that bullet, I feel bad for all the rest of you.” Maybe not that intense, but certainly I’ve had pity on people who are still trapped. I’d see them trapped and I’d remember where I was, and I’d be like, “Oh, I know that feeling, I’m so sorry.” But you can have a totally different experience if you have a mind-set shift around alcohol, 180 degrees.
Daily Video Content. This is where the magic happens! We’ll deliver these first thing each morning into your Membership Area and the Facebook Group so you can start your day empowered and prepare your questions for the LIVE Q&A coaching sessions in the Facebook group. These LIVE Q&A coaching sessions will then be made available in your Membership Area for those of you who do not use Facebook. That was very true for my drinking. I was trying to have a more positive experience, and I was creating so much negativity. Now, I'm sad sometimes and I'm okay with that. It feels better, for all the counterintuitive reasons, because I'm not striving to feel better as much as I'm striving to just be in reality.
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You follow up every challenging situation with, “At least I have my wine” or “I could really use a drink”.
Sober Curious: The Blissful Sleep, Greater Focus, Limitless Presence, and Deep Concentration Awaiting Us All on the Other Side of Alcohol by Ruby Warrington Before reading this book, I recommend a book like Habits of a Healthy Brain by Loretta Bruening or various books on anxiety and attachments that likewise examine the science behind how the chemicals in our brain work. Grace delves into this a bit with a discussion on dopamine, dynorphin, cortisol, serotonin, as well as chemical properties of alcohol such as ethanol and acetaldehyde. The book starts by introducing the author and her personal story of struggling with alcohol addiction. Annie Grace explains that the book is not about giving up alcohol forever, but rather about taking a break from drinking to understand its impact on one’s life.
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We've talked about how you've been unconsciously conditioned to believe alcohol is a vital part of life for relaxing, socialising, and everything in between. And you know there are competing desires inside your mind. Yeah. And it’s such a spectrum, right? I mean, in terms of alcohol is addictive, and the degree to which it takes control of your life or your thoughts, or you know, your habits, that I think that one of the things that people love about your work is that it’s judgment free. Because once you stopped drinking and get immersed in the world of other people who’ve stopped drinking, you know, we can use language that people don’t understand, or that completely turns them off. And I know I was this way, right? Like, even when we just say, sober, or sobriety or recovery or addiction, or the really, really high barrier term of alcoholic, it can be like, I’m not that or I don’t want that. Therefore, it isn’t for me to even look at my alcohol consumption, even though I’m worried about it.
Yeah, I love that. Because, you know, for so many of us who’ve been drinking for decades, you know, you know what your life looks like when you’re drinking like people are like, I mean, I was a daily drinker, I like you was at least a bottle, but seven nights a week, you know, a bottle plus and used to come down and be like, is there a quarter left in the bottle, or, you know, three quarters left, because that was sort of determined how crappy my day was going to be. But I didn’t know I didn’t remember. And so that groundhog day cycle, when you drink so much for so many years, you’re right, you know exactly how it’s gonna go. And most of us haven’t done a sober boat trip or a sober happy hour or sober Christmas, or whatever it is, in the longest time. I am. So, when you talk about self-compassion and curiosity, I’m curious one of my clients who said you absolutely changed her life and her mindset. And your book was the first one she read. She asked me to ask you have in your experience, once someone has embraced the beautiful life of sobriety, what if you seem to be the biggest common denominator between those people who stay sober? Whether it’s a mindset or habit, versus people who don’t have that long term success? Is it that compassion and curiosity or once you get past that initial phases? It’s something else? You are of two minds about alcohol - you have a desire to drink less, but you also feel deprived, left out, or upset when you think about or try to abstain. Yeah. And I think also, you know, there’s so much shame and not wanting to be in that category, that we don’t talk about it. I mean, I think the whole concept of why can they be a normal drinker? I mean, obviously, in this work, so many more people struggle with it, then ever talk about it, because it’s like the third rail, you don’t want to raise even the question, because nobody else is raising the question. You are experimenting with how your real life will be without alcohol. As you go along, you will be amazed to realise you don't need alcohol to socialise or have a good time. You only thought you did. Throughout the book, Annie Grace emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and taking small steps toward change. She provides practical tips for managing cravings and dealing with social situations where alcohol is present. Details of The Alcohol Experiment Book BookI had a few other moments like that, like when I asked my son to sit on my lap and he said that he didn't want to because I smelled bad, and my teeth were purple. This work can be so heavy. And the truth is that it's heavy enough, so I want to bring some lightness to it. I'm going to provide science-based information and I'm going to talk about my own life. What people want to do with that is totally up to them, and they should take the credit for doing all the work. I just shared my story. Yeah, exactly. And that’s the thing is that when we introduced so much fear into the conversation, and I can speak to this so well, because it was where I lived. For many years, I think I’ve estimated between 6 and 7 years of living in that cycle that you were just so eloquently talking about, of making those rules saying, you know, not this type of alcohol or not on these dates, or only this much, or taking this sort of break, and always coming up with either.
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