Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Love Hurts and You Don't Know Why: When Loving Hurts And You Don't Know Why

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Yes, many of them were emotionally attached to their partners, and some of them had trouble letting go.

If the warnings of this book were to be heeded and acted upon the world would take a significant step towards creating kinder, safer, better societies for all, men and women alike. When the mother abuses or mistreats her children, the boy is betrayed by the person that was supposed to care for him the most. These are communities that exist largely online, the massive underbelly of the iceberg going largely unnoticed and unseen, yet the tip extending into our ‘real’ world and becoming bolder and sharper every day.

When a parent teaches a child how to ventilate her feelings in appropriate ways, he teaches a very important lesson. I was already familiar with a lot of the ground Bates covers in this book, but she does a good job of putting it together and analyzing it, especially the political and media coverage and how violence against women is minimized and normalized.

Be careful: when he realizes his methods are not working with you, it’s possible the abuse will escalate before it disappears. Easier to join the dots between the abuse that’s hurled at women and ethnic minority politicians online, the lack of diversity in our parliaments, and the murder of a female MP in cold blood in her own constituency.

Including fathers who blamed children for their own insecurities (scapegoating), or who placed too high demand, and then showed all their disappointment when the child failed to meet them.

What if it’s almost impossible to get to grips with the epidemic of violence facing women and girls when we’re not able to clearly name and examine the problem? Their decisions and choices are seen to spring from a set of distinct and unique circumstances, because we see them as distinct and unique people. Forward focuses on toxic, manipulative, and abusive relationships, and she is also the author of “ Emotional Blackmail“. Our emotional foundations are created by the ways in which our parents treated us, the ways in which they treated each other, the kinds of messages their behavior communicated to us, and the ways in which we handled that information internally.When a child is subjected to verbal attacks, she sees it not as something being done to her but as something she has caused by her own failings. Unstable, irresponsible people do not get rescued; they continue to fail over and over again, and often they wind up hating their rescuers for making them feel even weaker. To speak ill of masculinity – to describe it, in its current societal iteration, as something problematic – is seen as an attack on men themselves. The mother becomes too powerful, and he views his partner in the exact same way: an overly powerful figure that can frustrate him, command him, make him feel weak, or hurt him. Such tactics are predicated on the idea that women are just Pavlovian reflex machines, without agency or choice.